Independent-Fig-4595

Independent-Fig-4595 t1_jaf0caz wrote

His experience would be very different from this commenters as his PTSD would not be complex. It has been generated from a one off event, not years of abuse or military service. It's a non-complex case.

If hubby refuses any medical care that makes things much more difficult and he could continue to suffer from this for many years to come, the longer you wait the worse it gets.

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Independent-Fig-4595 t1_jaf02vy wrote

PTSD from a one off event (clinically: non-complex PTSD) like this is very easily treated with EMDR therapy. It would likely not even be a terribly long process as, again, this is from a one off event.

If your husband suffers with multiple mental health disorders and seeks no treatment for any of them that is a bigger issue.

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Independent-Fig-4595 t1_jaeyo3y wrote

Communicate with him. Tell him your actual income and left over amount you have for disposable income after all your expenses are paid. Stop turning down his offers. He wants to spend time with you and share experiences for you, you declining is silly, he has the money and he wants to spend it on/with you. You're being overly proud and hurting yourself, your relationship and your partner as a result.

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Independent-Fig-4595 t1_iyf8eqd wrote

I believe cheaters can change but I don't think they can change for a partner who stays with them after cheating. And even if they did the trust will never be full and whole anyway. You did the right thing. Hopefully they betters themselves as a consequence of your correct decision to leave them.

I'm sorry this happened to you, it might take a while to get over and have an impact in your future relationships and ability to trust. Keep an eye on that and if you are struggling with trust even when there is no reason to reach out to a therapist for help.

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