My brother pays the rent but I do all the upkeeping, such as cleaning, making dinner, laundry, etc. and I pay for my own car and gas and such, so yeah you’re right that seems like a roommate scenario

I didn’t clearly specify but I currently have been staying with my brother for over a year, but I still kind of classify as it living with parents because it’s still technically family I guess, and my mom visits quite frequently.

Thank you so much for the heads up and I will check out that subreddit. Those 3 descriptions sound accurate because his brother is the type that never bought the BS, whereas he is the one that takes it to heart.

Our 6th year anniversary is tomorrow. We’ve been together since age 16. He is a wonderful man but I feel is still emotionally dependent on what his mother tells him to do. She does seem controlling, but he doesn’t see it, and when I point it out he gets offended.

I find that he does change his perspective on things based on what his mom tells him. We originally planned on saving for 6 months which I find very reasonable. I’m not an impulsive spender and primarily just pay for my car, food and gas, etc. I’m ready to fly out of the nest but for some reason he isn’t, and I think it’s because his mom gives him outrageous advice on things.

The thing is that I think it’s perfectly reasonable to save for a good 4-6 months before renting, but for me a year is just too long. I’m sick of the whole only seeing eachother on weekends thing. That’s what highschoolers do. All of our friends are moved out and living on their own and we’re the only ones still with our parents and not living together. It’s sort of embarrassing.