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spider-bro t1_ix3mrnz wrote
Reply to [Text] how do I get over the crippling fear of failure that I give up & don't even try? by icyycry
Lower your sights to things you can probably succeed at.
For example, if you’re afraid to go into law because you think you might fail as a lawyer, maybe set a smaller goal to start with, like doing 20 pushups a day.
I started doing 5 minutes a day of meditation (my rule was no reddit until I’d done my 5 minutes). Now I’ve got a streak of 148 days, and I’m up to 9 minutes a day.
And that may not seem like much, but my life has improved radically since 148 days ago.
20 pushups a day could change your life. It could make you the kind of person who might be less likely to fail as a lawyer.
It’s stairs. If you think you can’t step up to the next step, well, make the steps smaller. That’s literally what stairs are: a way to get up over a wall that’s too big to step over, by breaking it down into smaller walls that you can step over.
Your goals should be something you know you can do, but only if you grow a little.
And they should be nearer-term than you’re probably thinking. Becoming a lawyer is, absolute minimum, a three-year process. Most likely it’s more than that, because you need to get other things accomplished first, like getting a stable job, or fixing your health, or going through undergrad, or saving up some money to have a buffer while you study.
So instead of trying to commit and act on a five-year plan, maybe make yourself a one-month plan.
1% improvement per day. Just strive to do something 1% better than yesterday. A little bit of pushing, just for today.
Afraid to commit to cleaning your apartment? Clean one windowsill.
spider-bro t1_iwc463t wrote
Reply to [Image] Let's make it a great day! by chris_downie
What are your goals, everybody?
Mine is to become a therapist
spider-bro t1_iwbrsu6 wrote
Reply to comment by hazeleyedwolff in Scared the bejesus out of him! by StcStasi
But if they somehow manage to get up on their hind legs, watch out!
spider-bro t1_ivh30ln wrote
Reply to comment by [deleted] in Scientists are working on an official 'alien contact protocol' for when ET phones Earth by Gari_305
There you go.
spider-bro t1_ivh2x9z wrote
Reply to comment by Safe_Indication_6829 in Scientists are working on an official 'alien contact protocol' for when ET phones Earth by Gari_305
Maybe they only vaporize us if they see that we’re letting the naive, sheltered people make the negotiating decisions.
spider-bro t1_ivgfqpn wrote
Reply to comment by generalfrumph in Scientists are working on an official 'alien contact protocol' for when ET phones Earth by Gari_305
What if a ranch full of cattle was armed?
spider-bro t1_ivg8hy6 wrote
Reply to comment by [deleted] in Scientists are working on an official 'alien contact protocol' for when ET phones Earth by Gari_305
“In accordance with Dark Forest Protocol, this year’s super bowl will be shortened to five innings”
“Sincerely”,
— Congress
spider-bro t1_ivg87qe wrote
Reply to Scientists are working on an official 'alien contact protocol' for when ET phones Earth by Gari_305
I think that psychologists, diplomats, and paranoid schizophrenics should be working on that protocol.
Unfortunately, it’s probably radio astronomers, who are about as qualified to negotiate with aliens as a hostage negotiator is to calculate the relative velocity of a star via redshift.
spider-bro t1_iuwstw8 wrote
Reply to What if We Didn’t Have to Test New Drugs on Animals? As organ-on-a-chip technology comes of age, the bipartisan FDA Modernization Act 2.0 would remove the requirement that new drugs must undergo animal testing before human clinical trials by Responsible-Hat5816
Yeah let’s just focus on simulating living systems as accurately as possible. That’ll reduce unnecessary suffering for sure.
spider-bro t1_iujlvjb wrote
Reply to comment by Dr_Korona in this tube shaped cheerio on my spoon by pizzapost
Did it also taste like a pretzel stick?
spider-bro t1_iujljmv wrote
Reply to My Oatmeal Cream pie was empty. by JadedJak
Some assembly required
spider-bro t1_iujkvbs wrote
Reply to comment by phiwong in Eli5: Why did the Soviet Onion collapse? by [deleted]
An even shorter answer is that it was based on non-consensual relationships which are inherently more unstable than consensual relationships.
Of course all nations are that way; the definition of a law is a rule you adopt by being born. But the Soviet Union applied this kind of nonconsensual ordering to entire nations.
spider-bro t1_iuge7bt wrote
Reply to comment by Aldra1 in What makes Doom so “easy” to run on anything? by fox_91
It’s light now but the joke is that back in the day it was hard to run in some cases.
I had to do various weird things on my computer to get Doom working. My mom was so mad that I’d “screwed up” my computer when one of her friends reconfigured a bunch of stuff so Doom would run.
It was a Packard Bell 486-SX 33 with 4 MB of RAM.
Trying to un-fuck my computer was the beginning of my tech career.
spider-bro t1_iugcq7y wrote
Join a league soccer team. Instant friends.
spider-bro t1_iugb3ad wrote
Reply to comment by ASK_IF_IM_PENGUIN in Amazon may have to turn to SpaceX for help launching its Starlink rival service by ThisIsGooseV2
Competition is good for everyone involved. I do hope we don’t get too many global networks of satellites.
spider-bro t1_iugazl3 wrote
Reply to comment by escapedfromthecrypt in Amazon may have to turn to SpaceX for help launching its Starlink rival service by ThisIsGooseV2
It’s more like 100x isn’t it?
spider-bro t1_iugaxnl wrote
Reply to comment by [deleted] in Amazon may have to turn to SpaceX for help launching its Starlink rival service by ThisIsGooseV2
Well everything we do causes pollution so the more valuable something is the less reasonable it is to target it with pollution complaints.
The only way to stop pollution entirely is to self destruct our civilization. So barring that it’s all about which endeavors are worth the pollution.
spider-bro t1_iuebarz wrote
Is dropping your goals to take the shortcut to feeling worthy actually "motivation"?
spider-bro t1_iudp7x4 wrote
Reply to Amazon may have to turn to SpaceX for help launching its Starlink rival service by ThisIsGooseV2
Jeff Bezos is a goldmine of dismayed-looking pictures.
spider-bro t1_iubk0ld wrote
Reply to comment by iKyrax in What are your bad habits when gaming ? by Killmumger
I’ve gone the opposite direction. Somehow I got a lot less attached to outcomes in pvp games and it’s so much more fun.
I play Halo with a friend and he’s not having fun unless we’re winning. I just enjoy the challenge and the flow of the game. He gets so frustrated, and we usually have to switch to some PvE game just to keep him from having a heart attack.
spider-bro t1_iubjqja wrote
Reply to What are your bad habits when gaming ? by Killmumger
Another bad habit: taking a hit any time there’s a pause in the action.
Actually when I decided to only take a hit of weed between matches (not each time I died), it led to a decline in my smoking that eventually became zero smoking, ie I quit.
spider-bro t1_iubjlf9 wrote
Reply to What are your bad habits when gaming ? by Killmumger
I never stick with a game when the going gets tough.
A friend of mine, while we were growing up, had this rule from his mom: she wouldn’t buy him a new game or allow him to buy a new game until he proved to her that he had beaten the previous one.
Mofo has a wife and kids now, runs his own business, while I’m living in a bedroom with no bed.
spider-bro t1_iu6x7pw wrote
Which is?
spider-bro t1_iu6rh41 wrote
Reply to Blind date with a book by Kaisietoo8
In college my GF and I did this once at the movies. Just watched a movie neither of us had heard of. It was About Schmidt and it was pleasantly surprising.
spider-bro t1_ix8193v wrote
Reply to comment by Jazzlike-Ad-5986 in [OC] Celebrating a successful 4 month job search for a PreSales Manager role with a graph. by stan-k
Two hits. OP rejected one offer