Why don’t you make enough for him, set it aside, and he can warm it back up when he gets home. You not doing anything besides maybe a little meat is selfish and he will see it and get tired of living with someone who doesn’t care about him.

You don’t have to do it today, tomorrow, or next year. But you should at some point once you are ok to do so. Plus doing it with your therapist will make things easier for you to talk.

I never told my dad any of the shit he did to me. It has taken years to be able to be ok. Once I figured out that forgiving him isn’t for him, it’s for me helped a lot to make things easier. You never have to actually say you forgive him. But letting it all go will help you.

Nobody should throw anything at anybody’s head, especially something hard. Your dad trying to fix things now because you are an adult is a little too late. When you get into therapy you should try to set up a session with your dad so you can tell him how he fucked up while growing up. That will only happen once you are comfortable enough to actually tell your dad, but you should at some point. It will help him see how he made life for you and it will help you to let go and become a better person with or without a relationship with him.

Don’t! Mix! Business! And! Pleasure! It just won’t work out and will cause so many issues at work that neither of you should want to deal with. Have a line drawn that you don’t cross and at most just be friends but nothing else.

First. You don’t hint you want to be exclusive. You tell/ask directly. Hinting is just idiotic and people always miss hints or think it’s something else. So if you want to ask her to actually be your gf, ask. Worst she says is no.

Second. Of course they can. Women and men have been friends since forever. You thinking that more is happening is because of your past and not because of her. You are creating an issue because of being hurt. It isn’t a red flag she has guy friends. Plus she told you and didn’t hide the encounter. She is showing you that she can be trusted. But if you can’t trust her, don’t ask her to be exclusive with you or even be with her. She doesn’t need to be judged or second guessed or controlled for having friends of the opposite sex.