He can do it by himself then let you know whether or not he was comfortable though. If he is working on himself, it's not going to be comfortable and it probably won't be more comfortable with you there since you told him he needed to open up for the relationship to survive.

Your reasoning for couples therapy is kinds to check on him which is weird.

But there is nothing wrong with individual therapy or yall doing couples therapy for a normal reason.

And it's never too early to do therapy (in most cases) people usually wait until it's too late.

I would be upset but if you're upset then you're upset. It's your feelings to have. Talk to him about it.

But I wouldn't tell him that even though he's sick he needs to prioritize texting you. People are different when they're sick. I get a cold and it's the end of the world for me lol.

You sound like my best friend 😂😂 I get it lol. You make the plan in advanced and the day of you're like "why did I do that". Gotta make day of plans(no time to cancel) with yall 😂😂

Yeah, just come up with something that she'd like to do. It's better than "I'm not going but also don't know what we could do instead".

You sound like an introvert lol

But I'd talk to your gf, tell her about your time concerns with work. And maybe even propose an alternative that would involve her being able to drink.

This is ehbhh because Theo has set a precedent that everyone hugs hello and goodbye... then when Theo wasn't there and he hugged you, you didn't stop it.

Sooo (for future reference, set boundaries early. This convo could have been sooo much easier if you never let him hug you. There's nothing wrong with not wanting to be hugged)

You'd have to say something along the lines of "This isn't personal but I'd prefer if you didn't hug me. [You can explain why you'd hug Theo and not him if you want]"

I mean it might be kind of weird if he hugs everyone but you or if he sees Theo hug you after your conversation with gun, but I guess that isn't your problem 🤷

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A few months in and you're already ready to text another girl to see if they have something going on?? Yeah, I couldn't be in a relationship where I feel the need to do that.

Generally speaking, I call everybody everybody's name especially when i am sleepy. And it has nothing to do with me having feelings for the other person. If I were to call my boyfriend ABC and he called ABC to see if we had a thing, I'd break up with him.

I don't think it's a matter or trust, I think that it's a lack of communication and expressing your expectations. Had he said that he got a full panel done and he didn't, that would be a trust issue. He never said that he got a full panel so it is a communication on your end and lack of taking control of what people insert into your body. Don't be naive and assume that people will do something that you did not ask them to do

The moral of the story for you would be to communication your expectations.

Did you ask him to get a blood and urine test as well? The typical screening when I go to the OBGYN is not blood and urine so, maybe he thought he was fine.

Also a lot of people have some form of herpes so I don't think that your life is over.

For future reference, I always get tested together and look at results before unprotected sex. Maybe that's something that you could try in the future.