Neighbor growing up was practicing ollies on his driveway. Wasn’t wearing a helmet, since he was basically just jumping up and down from a standstill. Fell down and smacked his head, and while he didn’t die, he’ll never be able to live on his own or have a job. 15 years old when it happened.

Tbh your attitude of “I was drunk, it’s just a hat, I apologized, it’s nbd and what do you want from me?” is probably not winning you any friends. Did you sincerely apologize? Because I don’t think you can do that unless you actually feel bad, which you clearly do not. Maybe he’s unreasonable and grieving but based on your retelling he hates you, for something you did, and you don’t seem all that concerned. Idk you might be the asshole here.

You’re probably almost 50 too. Maybe stop getting black out drunk and bullying the bereaved.