He should be the one feeling guilty and evil for manipulating you. Dump him without an in depth explanation and without entertaining any questions.

He knows you want to break up. You’ve tried multiple times.

He knows WHY you want to break up - you’ve had endless guilt trips and arguments and manipulations, so I’m sure you’ve given him your reasons for wanting to end it.

He has all the information he needs, and at this point he’s proven that he doesn’t deserve a thoughtful discussion and gentle let down because he seizes upon that opportunity to manipulate you.

Break up with a “this isn’t working, and it’s over” statement, physically leave his presence, and block him on everything.

I wouldn’t necessarily dump him for being non exclusive when we were… non exclusive. I don’t blame you for being put off by it, depending on how seriously couple-y the “talking phase” was going, it might have been reasonable for you to expect that he had tapered off on the other girls he was dating and sleeping with. Just the circumstances of everyone’s talking stages are different so it’s hard to say if sleeping with someone else is a dealbreaker all the time.

However, he was irresponsible and unsafe, and gave you an std! I would dump him for that.

Pass. I think it’s a little weird and wouldn’t do it beyond the usual planning group Christmas gifts or something, unless the in law and I actually do become friends and want to be friends. That’s my personal opinion.

I do know couples where the partner talks to the in laws independently though, and that seems to work for them.

If your bf wants to cultivate relationships across family lines, he can take the lead and start texting your parents and see how that goes.

It’s so early, the not telling family doesn’t set off red flags for me.

But there seems to be a major incompatibility nonetheless. It’s ok. It happens. That’s why we date and try things out.

It could be a minor thing that doesn’t end up bothering you too much - he’s less expressive than you are, and that might be ok.

Ok this sounds like a couples counseling situation, she has a short fuse and takes it out on you and that understandably is frustrating for you and resentments are simmering on both sides.

The silent treatment is not good, but when you say you broke the ceramic, didn’t clean it up all the way, and she noticed and got mad….

But then you say she gave you the silent treatment and wouldn’t tell you what’s wrong - you knew what was wrong, you apologized for what was wrong (which suggests there was some conversation back and forth), why did you need her to spell it out again? Is she just refusing to rehash conversations already had and closed?

Couples counseling or break up.