Op. Let me emphasize:. It is not your fault you were abused and assaulted. It is not your fault you had a miscarriage. It is not your fault you had a bad experience with an IUD. You are not a bad person. You are a normal person experiencing a lot of pain that you don't know how to handle. Your boyfriend may have trouble understanding you, and it's wrong of him to talk down to you or criticize you when he can't understand. If you can afford one and if you can find one, I highly recommend seeking a professional therapist who can help you work through your trauma and help you deal with your emotions in a less stressful way. I also recommend going back to your gynecologist to get the IUD removed if you haven't done so already. You do not have to live with that physical pain. If the doctor won't remove it or tries to talk you out of removing it, find another doctor who will take it out. It's ok to try a product and realize you don't like it.

If he wants sex this early then that's what he wants. Nothing you say will make him stop wanting it. My BF and I didn't do the deed till we were together about seven months. Maybe that's extreme to some people but I am so happy we waited and took things slow. It is not too late to cut your losses and find someone who wants the same things you do.

Dude she knows and she's coming to us for help to not be abusive.

I would suggest seeking help from a professional therapist if you can find one and if you can afford it. They can teach you how to manage your impulses and how to communicate in a healthy way. I also would ask yourself: what do you get out of lashing out at him. If you weren't getting some kind of reward from it, you wouldn't be doing it. Then ask yourself is the reward greater than the harm you are doing both to him and your relationship?