I’m so sorry. Alzheimer’s is an awful disease. I hope you know that mom may not remember your name. However as long as you are a decently regular occurrence in her life she will know you and light up when she sees you. The only time I’ve ever seen people not recognize loved ones is if they visit one time a year for maybe 30 minutes. I suspect it’s because we age over time and change looks. But mom/dad have an image in their head of this person from 20 years ago. So sometimes it doesn’t line up.

It can be heart breaking to realize parents don’t know your name. It’s like when we accidentally call a kid by the dogs name. Or switch names up in the heat of a moment. Alzheimer’s/ dementia is similar. But she will know exactly who you are. As caregivers, we see it all the time.

True. But there’s a big difference between Medicare/Medicaid services and private pay. I’d much rather have private pay service problems.

Long term care is literally designed to take your money away to pay the facility and place you on Medicare/ Medicaid.

Source: I work in long term care for more years then I care to admit on both floor staff and administration ends.

The whole damn system is set up to squeeze middle class people into Medicare/Medicaid. If you are one of the lucky few, you can afford long term care that is comfortable. The luckiest of everyone suffer acute illnesses and don’t have the time for the system to take their money.