It’s two days for you, but she may have been over you weeks ago.

Your bf screwed up by deleting those messages. If you trust him it’s okay to let him wingman for his friends. It doesn’t have to be untoward, it is just a way to support a friend. Even if other woman are involved, he doesn’t have to do anything wrong to help out. As long as you are okay with him carrying on normal conversations.

That being said, the deleted messages are a bad look (even though he is probably telling the truth about what they said), it was a boneheaded move.

He probably is not cheating outside of sending a dick pic to a complete stranger. Check out r/scams things along this line are an epidemic these days. They fish for enough info to be able to search people on social media so they can threaten to expose it to friends and family. If you post about it on scams they can better explain what is happening.

Your husband should ignore them and apologize one thousand times over for sending a dick pic to some old man in the phillipines

They often proceed to threaten revealing it to all your friends and family on social media. They demand payment via gift cards or other means if not. This is one of the most common scams going right now.

It’s most likely a old man in some third world country playing a risqué young lady. Sometimes they will even lay child porn on them by later revealing they are not 18.