Isn’t that kind of all you’d expect from a FWB? It’s not a BF/GF relationship. And if he gets preoccupied with someone he may want a relationship with wouldn’t communication with them take priority? One might ask “what do you get out of this?” If it’s not fulfilling you then you can address it because you deserve to be happy.

It’s difficult with a LDR. But at some point you have to trust a person - until you decide not to trust them anymore. Follow your gut.

Manipulative people search out understanding, kind people like you. Be cautious.

You’re not a disappointment; but she is. She sounds like a lousy GF.

You snooped - nothing good ever comes from that. You’re actively looking for reasons not to trust him - Why? Is there anything else that you question about him?

You’re 30! THIS is your concern?!

It’s emotional blackmail. Please read this: https://www.loveisrespect.org/resources/what-to-do-if-your-partner-threatens-suicide/

I didn’t say you needed “fixing”. I just know from experience that you can’t move backward in time and the answers to happiness lie in the present (and sometimes the future) but not the past. You’re not the same person you were 10 years ago and neither is he. But if your curious and need to “scratch that itch” then write to him on FB. Or find him on Instagram and write to him. Ask him what’s new in his life and take it from there. If it turns out to be more than just a diversion from the present, let us know. Do what you have to do. I wish you luck.

Because if were happy and fulfilled with your current life I doubt that you would be so nostalgic and be looking up people from a decade ago. I could be wrong.

I’d cut them out of my life immediately. You’ll feel a weight off of your shoulders.

Are you that bored and lost in the present that you think going back 10 years will fill some void?! It won’t.

Well, you don’t need strangers to tell you the idea is ludicrous.

I hope this is a joke post. If not, you already know the answer.

Honestly, you sound like a great “catch”. Don’t settle. If your gut is telling you marriage to this person is bad, trust it.

Has this always been LD or have you met in person? People who are financially irresponsible ask out those who are financially responsible in order to maintain their lifestyle. She found you. It’s easy not to care when someone else is paying the bills. You are at very different levels of maturity and marrying her without a solid agreement about finances moving forward would be a huge mistake..also sounds like if you marry her that her mom may begin being dependent on you as well. Be careful. 🚩🚩🚩