Often times it’s not that the person doesn’t want to be with you, they just want to reap the benefits of being with you without putting in the work to make you happy as well. I’m sure he’s just fine with getting his needs met and being cared about. He just doesn’t care enough to give back. People have mental and emotional issues that cause problems with communication, but that’s what therapy and classes are for. He refuses to do those.

Just a PSA for anyone in a situation where you’re asking something of your partner and they put you off or outright refuse: If they wanted to, they would.

If they wanted to take you out more, they would. If finances are the issue they’d find a way to do a cheap/free date here and there.

If they wanted to be more open and honest, they would. They’d get the therapy. They’d take the classes.

If they wanted to fix the issues, they’d do whatever they could to try and fix it.

If you’ve had repeated conversations with someone and they’re aware of the thing and they still won’t do the thing, they just don’t want to.

It will never cease to amaze me when people think “they’re insecure and have trust issues. I know! I’ll just lie and hide more stuff. That’ll make them trust me more!”

Given the details, I think he’s full of shit and just manipulating the OP. But it’s something people do a lot. If someone has no qualms lying either by omission or straight to your face about something small, they’ll absolutely keep big things from you.