But I'm not a therapist so what works for me may not work for you but it's worth a try and if you message me on here i can kinda talk you through it if you need more help :).

Maybe seek therapy but honestly it's a hard feeling to get over. Next time you feel it coming on repeat in your head he loves me he just wants to play with his friends he obviously can't always be talking to or always be around me. Take deep breaths when you do it. I promise this helps i had to do this as well and it did eventually work.

Dude do you see what your saying divorce her. Wakeup she's not going to change and if you really can't deal with it divorce.

If you wanna be petty open up the relationship and find somebody who actually accepts you cause she certainly don't.