That’s the funny thing. He doesn’t pay for shit for me. He bought me a couple nice gifts for Christmas. I pay for everything and work super hard for my money. That’s why I’m like damn, I’m not even getting money and she is??? Hahaha. She literally just getting handouts from him.

Yeah I think I would have to walk away. I can’t in good conscience stay with someone who would choose an ex in another country over me. That’s heavy af.

Oh I know it matters. I just don’t want to be bullied or harassed you know?

Yeah I know this all just came up in the last few days I’m in shock. I know I definitely would not be marrying him anytime soon after this. I don’t know if I ever could in good conscience. I tend to hold onto things. So I don’t know I could forgive but never forget unfortunately

Thank you

Lmao literally

I totally understand. More what I mean is that I don’t want to get harassed about it. A lot of the people on here have just been rude and brutal. I’m always open to advice because clearly I need it desperately, however, I just don’t care for the bullying/harassment.

Yeah the whole situation was a nightmare. My concern is really that I think she is using him too. I’m not mad at the girl I mean to her, somebody else’s boyfriend is giving handouts?!! Hell yeah! I mean shit who wouldn’t take advantage😂 but I think she might’ve lied to him or mislead him…she said her family was dying and stuck there in Peru, then I do some digging and find out they are absolutely fine in America.

I mean everything so far, has been pretty good. Except this, and in my mind, this is huge.

You paying though?

Appreciate it

I mean he showed me some texts. He really did leave her, but that’s why I think it’s so odd. I’m wondering if he’s okay with this, that he’s okay with cheating too.

I know I know it’s cliche. I can’t try to rationalize or explain it to anyone else I guess. It’s just a preference for me. I understand what you are saying though.

I really love him. I know the age gap is crazy, but my life is just different I guess. I grew up around all adults, I was never really allowed to hang out with people my age, so I’m generally just more comfortable and prefer older men. He and I agree on pretty much everything. Same politics, same views, same interests, religious beliefs etc. so it does check out at least. I am so hurt because I see myself marrying him..

I’m having a hard time with it because I just don’t understand. If he left her and he can’t stand her why won’t he stop??? He keeps saying I committed to keep paying through the end of this year, and I’m like dude we are talking about getting married and kids how could you have kept this from me after marriage?!!

Damm

Well they were never married, but yeah she was also young too.