I appreciate that advice and love that quote. But particularly because this is r/getmotivated, I feel like I should clarify. My life is very successful on a surface level (while the quote you gave is 100% true I do not want to lead anyone to think they shouldn’t try).

But I’ve always cared far more about the people in my life than economic success, career achievement. I always viewed those as a means to get to spend time with the people I love doing fun shit, investing my time and energy into them etc. And the shit “end of the stick” is the one time I asked some of them for some emotional support it turned into an argument instead of them really offering anything. Then after said argument my GF (now ex), my best friend and her boyfriend decided to hack some of my accounts and threaten me with pictures of me. Then instead of apologizing they said we can never talk about it again, but we’re not apologizing. So I walked away and they immediately started denying anything & everything to all my social circle who literally believed my ex best friend (and she’s known as loose with the truth). So I feel like I did right by everyone, and then got immediately outcast over the people that I literally just asked for the only apology I think I ever asked them for.

As someone who did everything they “should’ve done” and still winding up on the shit end of a stick, cherish that hope and use it as motivation.

Instead of even starting to rebuild my entire life, I’m stuck trying to decide why. And I’de damn near kill just to get that hope/drive back.

I’ve always felt of confidence as proud of what you’ve done and who you are while recognizing mistakes and striving to be better in those areas. Hopefully constantly recognizing areas to touch up or improve, improving them and then gaining more confidence. But recognizing faults, shortcomings, or weakness and becoming/remaining confident in your ability to do so.

Whereas hubris would be more “I’m not supposed to fail because it’s ME, I deserve to “win” for no other reason than because of that. I have no weaknesses so why are we wasting time playing? Just give me the prize.

IMO every single confident person will be able to tell you open and honestly about their weaknesses, able to apologize and take blame when they fuck up, and strive to do better. A person with no confidence or too much hubris either lacks the confidence to think “I made a mistake, but it’s nothing I can’t overcome. I’m confident I can do better next time. Therefore they deny blame or ownership.

And someone with hubris thinks “I’m the best there’s ever been I’m perfect. This couldn’t have been because I did something wrong”. And can’t fathom that they make mistakes too