Did you take into account that the bar itself commonly weighs about 45lbs? I don't know about the local gym but my high school gym bar weighed 45, dunno about other schools. Should take that into account too. Also if there's other workout machines and options that aren't bench pressing that don't need a partner, try those.

You think it's normal to talk about how your late husband killed himself and that's how your previous relationship ended is a normal thing? There's nothing logical about that, only pain and only masochists like pain. I doubt he's a masochist.

Honoring someone by celebrating what they enjoyed to talking about them are two different things too.

Oof, BIG oof. Your friend is gonna need some time to digest and process all of that. None of it is your fault though.

I totally forgot about that! XD The South Park movie from like 03 or something.

Oof, I was gonna say like not to worry because it's not as good as the real thing but you might want to speak to your bf in private about that. It's DEFINITELY gonna be awkward as Hell but it's gotta be done, especially if you want to smooth things over with the future in laws.

Dude, she didn't punch you in the dick so calm down ok? Everything is good.

Props to the uncle.