No i dont think thats a joke, i think thats his wish. And its fine to want that and express that but if you dont want that, youre not compatible.

Plus I hope he realizes that staying home and managing a household is actually a lot of work so if he doesn’t like to work, then he’s not gonna like that arrangement either.

God forbid you end up bringing in the money and doing everything at home too, like the friend i mentioned.

First things first. Set your boundary on how much you can afford to spend on him and enforce your own boundary with your own self.

Second, if he doesnt want to do anything in order to see you, do you want to be with him?

Third, are you compatible if he doesnt work or go to school and you do? Are you compatible if youre long distance and cant afford to see each other?

Fourth, hes making excuses for not having a job. There are thousands of open entry level jobs you can do from home. Or businesses you can start. Plus he got a job, then did not keep it THREE TIMES.

Fifth, a friend of mine spent tens of thousands of dollars on a man over the course of five years. He never held a job, never did childcare, and never helped with chores. Instead, he hit her and played video games for hours daily and impregnated one of the women that he played with. I’m sharing this so you know that sometimes people don’t change. Sometimes they get much worse. And it can go on for as many years as you allow.

And whether or not he decides to change is NOT IN YOUR CONTROL.

I dont think its weird that your bf doesnt care. He should care if you cheat but should expect other people will be attracted to you.

I dont really think your coworker did anything that is clearly flirting. Like maybe it is but maybe its not