I meant it as just depression, not a bunch of separate problems that’ve been held in. I apologize if the wording was bothersome.

My stresses increase in the final weeks because they’re suddenly not helping out and they’re acting odd and not talking about what’s wrong, and then it ends and everything becomes abundantly obvious that things weren’t okay. My partners have always been really good at pretending things are okay. I think it’s because of traumatic childhoods where pretending everything is fine was a survival strategy.

Have been :/

Ideally. Unfortunately , my meltdowns scare my partners and then they stop talking about problems and it’s hard for me to notice the absence of something

I made it specific because I’ve only realized it too late both times. If even one person catches it in time to help and save a good relationship, then it’s worth the specificity

A good and mature response friend 💙

The first lived with me for 3-4 years and the second for over 2

Appreciate jumping in but remember to be kind please