Option 1: Move on and have a friend (possibly).

Option 2: Pursue more than a friendship and lose the friend.

There is no Option 3. Don’t think, “well, maybe she’ll change her mind if I pressure her” she won’t. Or “maybe if I pretend I don’t want more, she’ll change her mind eventually” she won’t.

The truth of the matter is, she’s made up her mind. She may even be acting like she wants to maintain the friendship (Option 1) right now, when she actually just wants distance.

The best thing you can do is say “Hey, I understand things are awkward, let’s just go ahead and accept what happened, but remain friends.” then give her space. She probably needs a few days to figure out her feelings and doesn’t need your input.

Holy crap, I just saw it! I thought he was talking a BB…he did mean pellet. Oof.

I think you should sit down with your grandmother and tell her exactly what you wrote here. 100% exactly what you wrote here.

You explained it with the right level of emotion and fact, while not being sappy or cold. I think your grandmother would appreciate it.

Once you’re done, tell her you love her and wouldn’t want to hurt her, and you want to know what she is thinking.

You don’t want to leave this unresolved, or you’ll feel bad long after she’s gone.