came here to say this. valentine’s day is just a set day for all the shops to sell their shit by basically, when you’re in love as an adult valentine’s day is just like another day because it’s supposed to feel that way everyday (for the most part) OP don’t make this about anything other than supporting your gf on that day and she will appreciate it way more than you trying to make a day of it, or making her feel guilty about it. bring it up to her that you want to make your own special valentine’s day that’s way further away from that date, it seems super romantic and thoughtful since you know her troubles with that date.

this man sounds trash. you’re giving him a roof over his head, looking after him and he can’t even sling his neck and give some good head? girl, you and your pay check deserve way more than this sack of potatoes. think of how much happier you could be in a years time if you leave him and find someone who is way more suited to you in every way. he will fully just sit back and continue to let this happen, don’t let him! he’s comfortable and you should rip the rug from under his feet.