So you married a controlling gaslighting manipulative asshole who bullies you and physically assaulted you. I don’t know what advice you want here. My advice would be to divorce his dumb ass ASAP.

No it’s not wrong to want to work ANYWHERE IN YOUR HOUSE where you pay the rent?!

Honestly it sounds like he married to get housing for his family.

God this is childish. Just break up. He clearly would cheat and this has broken your trust but just to clarify if you’re at the point where you’ve rationalized setting your SO up? It’s time to leave.

She’s either your best friend or she isn’t. If I found out some man was two timing my bestie and I I’d show her ALL the receipts. I’d come clean immediately

Stop choosing this turd of your so called bestie.

First rule out anything medical like undiagnosed PPD, she sounds apathetic towards life which is a huge flag for depression. Honestly you may have to stage a bit of an intervention if she’s refusing therapy already.

If it’s nothing medical then honestly I usually never suggest going nuclear but I’d demand marriage counseling or splitting up. Something is very broken here.

If you already feel like it’s not going anywhere why are you wasting your time and his time? It’s obvious what he wants and it’s not what you want.