Do you have any friends or family who could help? This is more than not ok.

I think I have to agree with the stereotypical reddit answer: run, if you can do so safely.

It’s not your onus to change him, especially in this regard, and especially given your past trauma. You’ve been through enough.

Besides, if he really believes this, then he is supporting a belief that men are at least not completely at fault when they commit sexual assault or coercion and that he is just as potentially dangerous.

Hell, he might even be laying the psychological groundwork for something he plans on doing in the future. Trying to make you think that, when he does it, it’s not his fault and that he can’t help it.

That’s not good.

So run, OP. For your own safety and wellbeing.