Thank you for this 😅 Really puts things into perspective, although as this is the first time it still does kinda hurt. I felt like I deserved it if someone as kind as her had to cuss me out. Maybe I should do a self check too.

We don’t. She said she got it from me but I don’t recall saying “do whatever you want” to her, genuinely. I do tell her to do whatever will make her happier when she asks me if she should do this or do that like read this book or that book or if she should start doing this instead of this. i make sure to say it sweetly and add a term of endearment at the end. i’m thinking maybe that could’ve hurt her? but she never seemed bothered whenever i said that. if she were, i’m pretty sure she’d give me hints right away.

I said she could’ve simply apologized instead of blaming me because she meant it as a joke and that i was “attacking” her.

I know that. But is it okay to hear it from your partner especially over an argument? We are both in our 20s. I would expect this in high school but definitely not where we are now. I’ve cursed around her but never AT her directly. This is a first for her too.