Ok-Marzipan-9846

Ok-Marzipan-9846 t1_ixe1gbh wrote

Reply to LPT request: how can I make my house more secure and less vulnerable for burglary. by chiduuuu

The best cop thinks like a thief, the best thief thinks like a cop.

Look at you property as if you were to invade.

Secure the perimeter

  • Walk the property with your dog, pick up any trash - basically your way of 'claiming' this space and you will be able see if anybody has been there
  • Look for all potential weak spots that would gain someone access (loose fence boards, easy way to jump fence)
  • Talk to neighbors on all sides of your property

Address the weak points/blindspots

  • Change locks, make sure your windows are locked securely.
  • Install security cams
  • Alarm system
  • Security lights
  • Signs around property

Don't let your routine be predictable

  • If someone is staking you out, do things to throw them off (park your car in a different spot, turn off lights at a different time, keep all windows covered)

Have a response plan

  • Whether that means calling the police, getting your gun, baseball bat, whatever...
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Ok-Marzipan-9846 t1_iub6ba2 wrote

Reply to LPT Request: how to deal with an emotionally draining friend I have to see on a daily basis by mercurysnowman

Chances are they know they are using you as an emotional tampon. Most people won't entertain their bs, and they will use you as an emotional dumping ground

I would just tell them to seek counseling as you have better things to do and don't want to be dragged down by their negativity.

This is how my dad was with me. I used to try and listen and give advice, but he never did take the advice and only ruined my mindset. My other siblings are more nefarious than me and would use that information against, criticize him or even turn the tables and start unloading on him. The only thing that put a stop to that was having firm boundaries and cutting him out of my life for not respecting those boundaries.

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