In addition, most of the time her partners were not abusive towards her, only to her children. She was not the one being abused, she enabled her partners to abuse me and my sibling. She is not a victim, she is both an abuser and an enabler. Do not defend someone you know nothing about while insulting someone else you know nothing about.

She has gone into relationships knowing that the person has drug or domestic violence charges against them. She has learned from then to choose her partners wisely instead of falling into the wrong crowd and just choosing anybody to father her child, which is what she did plain and simple. You do not know my mother, I’m not saying she deserved the abuse but she did know the kind of person she was dealing with before she started a relationship with them. Please don’t speak like you know somebody’s situation when you don’t.

Putting in the work to get a CNA certification makes a huge difference too. It takes years of work experience to get to the same level as someone who took 2 weeks of classes, I highly suggest it to anybody who can afford it or can get it through their workplace. There are definitely some crappy aides, but that’ll happen with every workplace. The ones who really care and form good relationships with the residents are the best, and their job becomes a lot easier after putting in the work. Once you form a relationship with a resident, they are more likely to listen and cooperate with you instead of putting up a fight, some of which get physical especially in dementia care. Overall, I love my job and my residents. Even though management sucks sometimes, I couldn’t ask for a better job at the moment <3

I scored a place for 800/month, but ohio seems to be one of the cheapest states to live in

It doesn’t measure my happiness, but it does allow me to live much more comfortably and get away from a toxic living situation

My biggest goal in life is to find or work towards a cure for degenerative dementia. That is a FAR reach but maybe if I work hard enough I’ll get there :)