You've been dating for 4 months. You're not in a place yet where a discussion needed to be had over him taking an assignment that's only 2 months. Also, missing your birthday because of this is not "potentially notable" to hold against him at a later date. He was not obligated to check with you first, and I'm not sure how you view time but "1/6th" of the year is not a long time.

Also, I see you have tried to post something asking if you're in a toxic relationship...yes, yes, yes, completely and totally 100% without a doubt you are in a toxic, abusive relationship.

And what happens when he can never look at you the same after? I'm sitting next to my partner and he read this...he said "yea he's happy that his wife gives good bj's and thinks he wants to show it off...I know what it's like to have the best oral of my life (gave me a kiss and I blushed like a school girl) it makes you feel like a king. I have absolutely no desire to show it off and the thought actually makes me sick, but this guy feels like he wants to share HIS WIFE with his friend-thinks it will be sexy and a turn on, thinks it will be like a porno...and after she does whatever she does to this friend, her husband will completely regret it and use it against her at every opportunity. Every argument, every fight, every disagreement he will use this to make her feel guilty...guilty for something he asked her to do. Tell her not to do it. Well shit all this talk about bj's has me in the mood for one, you feeling generous?" I am, actually.

Don't do it.

He's being sarcastic, if I base it on his past comments I've seen while I'm scrolling the sub.

So basically everyone would expect their partner to not go, just because you can't? That's ridiculous. Romantic vacation for the couples doesn't mean it has to be for other people. I would never make them feel guilty or bad for going, because I'm not a child and I'm not insecure in my relationship. Would I be bummed to miss out on a trip when I love to travel? Of course. Would I go on Reddit so 9/10 comments can tell me "well your partner must be cheating or wants to hook up with strangers" probably not. Maybe this is Karma for getting a couple kicked out of their apartment because you just assumed their dog was evil (breed discrimination by the way, I'm a Rottie Mom and that makes me sick) because he gasp liked to run down the hallway!

I would never expect my partner to miss a trip just because I couldn't afford it. What kind of partner does that? Not a good one. Just because it's a romantic vacation for the married couples, doesn't mean it has to be for everyone else. Also, either this girl doesn't know how old she is or she's aging backward because in her last post, she was 28.