Jesus I'm just glad you're alive... I once accidentally took 2 adderall (or 5 minutes apart bc I forgot the first dose), I'm very tolerant to stims (can drink 2-3 monster energy drinks in the morning and only feel slightly less sleepy), I thought I was going to throw up due to nausea and my eyes felt like they would explode.

Honestly I say it because I'm clueless and also just awkward-- like I'm fine with small talk and lighthearted joking, or discussing difficult things with close friends. If we're friendly but you're not super close/someone I pretty much consider family basically, then I won't know what you want unless you give me a hint (or say outright), and the more tragic or difficult your situation, the more awkward I'll feel, and the more likely I'll act awkward, muck it up guessing and/or end up saying something that offends you accidentally in the process due to me feeling awkward overriding my ability to human. Just tell me if there's anything imminent, text me if you think of something, text me if you wanna vent, but otherwise I'll assume you wanna be left alone and don't want me making things more complicated for you.

This is one of those stores where I'd respond "💀" but I don't want anyone to mistake the slang expression "dead" for my literal expiration

I wake up 1.25 hours before work with a migraine sometimes. These are so bad I sometimes have to get my partner to text that I'm sick since I can't open my eyes without feeling like I'm getting hit in the head with a thick textbook, and have trouble going to the bathroom ,forget working, but luckily I vomit enough for 3 days so I barely have to go to the bathroom anyway due to dehydration and not keeping food (or pain meds) down. I would much rather just go be bored at work because hell is what I described, and I've just decided to go to the hospital a few times because I was still in constant unwavering pain 2 days in. So let's just say I'm feeling some schaudenfreude here, no offense OP but hopefully you'll be more understanding in the future bc you were kinda asking for this in a karmic sense.

How is it debunked though if people legitimately experience it? And isn't it possible that someone can be both trans AND have this, but also they often don't overlap (meaning a trans person could not have this whatsoever, or a cis person could 100% have this and still be cis?). I mean, I just don't see how we can discredit that something psychological exists (and as ubiquitous as having a fetish, which could literally be anything).

Just because it could have overlap with the experience of being transgender doesn't mean it isn't a distinct thing. I personally have what one could dysphoria about my reproductive organs and honestly want to not have a uterus or breasts, I just have a disdain for traditional gender roles and the idea that I must have babies when I don't want them and body dysmorphia, which have existed within me since I was a preteen, I still very much identify with feminine clothing and femininity and have no interest in being a man.

I guess I don't see why we're discrediting OP's own lived experience.

Yeah, that's the thing, autogynophilia shouldn't be used to discredit trans people, BUT people are also telling OP that their fetish doesn't exist, and that sorta invalidates their own lived experience (not to mention that anything that can be a fetish probably is, and I know for a fact that there's people who are sexually aroused by crossdressing while still being cisgender).