You can absolutely be friends but the romantic side is dead, not wounded, it is dead because if you let yourself pretend there is a glimmer of hope you will do yourself a great disservice.

There is nothing wrong with having a person you like be a friend right now but that is all they will be. Good luck finding a good one elsewhere OP

It took over 3 years for my wife to recover from severe Post-partum depression, it wasn't that dissimilar meds didn't seem to help but counciling did a bit and then one day it started getting better and better and that was 5 years ago. It was a lot of loving the unlovely parts of her but I stuck it out.

I know the kind of situation you are in but I certainly don't know exactly. I remember the bad months, the times I persevered against all odd and hownshe still weeps in thankfulness that i didnt stop loving her during the worst of it.

I can't tell you what you need to do, and if she's struggling with depression she probably can't tell you either so take what advice you see on here, find people to help support you and remember to take time to breathe when the walls start closing in.

Big hugs OP 🫂 I know it is awful but I hope you find a way through💙