Leather-Worry-7517

Leather-Worry-7517 OP t1_jadacof wrote

I've tried saying this to her as well. I tell her how immature it is and she does nothing to work on it. I'm about communication, but she tells me it's pointless to talk to me. She feels as if she has to dumb things down for me! I promise you, I am not a dummy. When she's upset, she just ignores me when I try asking a question or apologizing, she just shuts down and shuts me out and frankly she just leaves without saying anything. It hurts every time. She just leaves instead of trying to talk or resolve anything. I feel abandoned every time she does it, yet she still does it.

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Leather-Worry-7517 OP t1_jad9rj8 wrote

You are right, because I'm always here when she's done being upset. I need to regain power in this relationship. My thing is, if I said I won't be around anymore, she will just say that's fine and she will be ok. She won't be hurt by my leaving. Because I try so hard to make it work, she keeps sticking around. I guarantee as soon as I put less effort in or pretend I don't care, she will leave and be ok being by herself. She is a narcissist.

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Leather-Worry-7517 OP t1_jad935e wrote

Well to be fair we are both against having children. I do have a dog though.

I second this question you have with: how will she react if we ever do decide to live together? Will she just leave the apartment? Will she just disappear? I am very afraid of how she will react if we ever decide to get to that point. At this rate I don't see us ever living together. She's completely against it as of now and her actions turn me off from it myself.

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