If I knew they had a good work ethic and knowledge and would be a good fit, I wouldn’t hesitate to give a friend a reference or other help finding a job. Your reasoning makes no sense. I’m in my current position because a colleague who knew one of my friends but didn’t really know me personally gave me a referral and it’s changed my life.

You have an interesting idea of what friendship is.

She’s shown you red flags very early. You should heed that and let her sugar daddy have her and you can move on to someone who won’t cheat after a month and try to blame you.

I’ve been married almost 20 years and I can count the number of times I’ve called my FIL on one hand. And we don’t have a “ bad” relationship.