Elden Ring is funny specifically to me as options are equal for both but you end up spending most of your time completely covered in armor so the Avatar underneath is pointless lol

I do depending on the game and options.

I've never really seen the character as an in-game avatar projection of me.

I see them as a 3rd party that I'm simply controlling.

When there are no options (think Lara Croft or RDR2, where you're controlling the main character, you don't get a gender choice) I'm not upset because I have to play an off-gender.

In MMO's or things like Souls games - I'll create toons of both genders simply for variety.

Gin Soaked Boy by The Divine Comedy.