From my understanding, it's more the fact he doesn't want to leave home. Also my work is in his city too, so it wouldn't make sense for him to move in my direction unfortunately. So in this case there seems to be no resolve :(

I appreciate this - makes me feel like there's a light at the end of the tunnel at some point! I'm glad you're getting what you want in life now!

Thank you again for your kindness, and I hope you have the best evening <3

Thank you for saying this, I feel like I've felt like I've been going crazy. There's just always been some barrier to it. And I've lived in the same city in the past by moving out on my own and he would spend time with me there, but this wasn't permanent and I would move back home and we would be in separate cities again (so except for our 1 year in uni, we have lived in the same city for a total of about 7 months in the last over 3 years). I could in theory move back to the same city by myself and he could come by and stay with me, but I fear that's not the same level of commitment I am searching for.

Thank you so much for taking the time out to write this. But you're right, love isn't enough which I am very sadly realising. I don't know if it's fresh breakup brain but I of course would hope to some day work things out at this stage - whether that's realistic is a different story.

Also thank you for saying you wish me peace, it felt like a hug when I needed it most haha.

Thank you for that, you may be right. I was just wondering what made you think that? Again, thanks for your response I really appreciate it