For example, i forgot to retorque my alloys in the autumn when the mandatory winter tire months came on. When i finally did it, some of the bolts were already "finger tight".

Almost every garage i have worked at has reminded customers about retorque when they get their car back.

Steel rims deform slightly, giving the connection some "springiness". But alloy wheels don't deform if you stay within the given torque range (if you don't, they crack) so any dirt particles, rust, sand etc. that grinds to dust after initial tightening will leave a gap between the hub and rim.

So forgetting retorque with steel rims is somewhat forgivable, but outright dangerous with alloy rims.

"At that moment i knew that that 3rd ham was too much."