I think using this to enhance our sex life is a great option, because I feel trying to bury the feeling would only create an issue down the road.. but he is persistent on the fact that it’s not something he wants to continue doing at any point in his life, and that this personality he takes on while having these conversations with other women is so detached from himself.

I even joked that the reason he possibly doesn’t speak to me the way he speaks to these other women is because he actually views me as a human being, which he chuckled and agreed to. It’s a very peculiar situation for sure.

Thank you for your reply!

We’ve had many talks about it! Both agreed that if it comes to a point where he feels like he will slip back into old secretive ways, and if he has absolutely any respect or care for me as a human, he would either tell me straight up or if it feels hard doing that then write me a little note (we’ve always left each other notes).

I even offered us sexting people together and he wasn’t against it but said it’s not something he wants to continue doing either alone or with someone.. time will tell, but i’ve made it very clear that me agreeing to work on/move past this is not me saying that what he did was okay, or that i’m the type of person to be scared to leave.

i understand and agree with what you’re saying and i’m really not sure as i’ve always been open about the fact that i’m okay with porn.