There is more love out there for you. I promise. This situation sucks but you'll grow through it and things will be ok.

Basically, you can't. This is a choice he is making.

The choice YOU can make is to refuse to go anywhere in the same car with him if he is driving. And if you know he is actively endangering lives on the road, call the cops and give them his plate number.

There are no magic words for turning a shithead into a good person. I'm sorry. There are none.

Don't date people who are mean to you.

You can't fix him. You can't change him. There are no magic words to "get through to him."

He knows what he's doing.

It wouldn't be over a walk. It would be over his behavior. He was unkind and rude.

If this is the first time he's ever done something like this, it's worth talking to him about, after he's had a chance to cool off from whatever was bugging him that day. "I felt very hurt and confused by your behavior on that walk. Can you explain to me what was going on? I'd like to understand and I'd like for us to talk about how we can avoid similar situations in the future"

If he's rude and snippy frequently, and it is something you can't accept and he won't change, now is probably a good time to cut your losses and move on.

Mind you, it's possible that he has grown tired of maintaining the courtship behavior that attracted you to him, and is starting to revert to his normal self as infatuation fades and real life sets in. If you start to see this behavior more frequently, that is probably what is happening. The real him is showing up.

You were only a few months into the relationship and you found out that those qualities were being used to hide misbehavior.

He has surface level good qualities but extremely poor character. The poor character is what you're going to be dealing with long term. The good qualities will be dropped as soon as he thinks he has you hooked.

You have to understand that it is normal for someone to appear "perfect" for you at the beginning of the relationship. People put their best foot forward. They do what they know you want so you will consider them for the role of partner. The difference between someone who is just putting on a facade and someone who is genuinely a good person is that the good person maintains all these good traits consistently and long term.

My ex, for instance, was "everything I wanted in man" and sucked me into a whirlwind romance and marriage. Literally the day we married he dropped the mask and I discovered I was married to an absolutely miserable, selfish, abusive person. There were signs, but I ignored them because he had that fake perfect man persona which made me question my sanity if I ever had concerns.

My current partner, on the other hand, is a genuinely good person. He didn't playact a good partner until he had me hooked. He IS one, to his core. He communicates openly because it is genuinely important to him. He is kind all the time because he is a genuinely kind person. He is not good to me only to get something from me, but because his goodness is a core part of his personality.

It takes time and caution to find out whether a person's behavior is genuine or not. You have found out that your bfs "good person" persona was at least partially false. It would be really foolish to continue with him.

Y'all started the relationship as children. There is a lot of development and change from mid-teens to early twenties, and more from early to mid twenties.

She may have outgrown the relationship. Or there could be any number of other things going on. But if she doesn't want contact from you, don't contact her. She's ended the relationship. You need to move on. That is painful and scary but it's what you need to do..

Sounds like you need to sit down and have an open conversation with her instead of playing tug of war.

Maybe she's gone off the deep end. Maybe you're just having trouble adjusting to a relationship where you are not in power. You can't figure it out if you don't talk about it.

Go with your friend.

I'm sorry to say, I think you likely have been catfished. Either that or he's got cold feet, possibly because he isn't exactly who he's made himself out to be. Even facetime and seeing his social media isn't adequate to fully know a person.

Forget this dude. If he wanted to, he would.

Give yourself a fantastic vacation. Have fun with your friend. Pack in a bunch of awesome activities and make sure you go home with good memories.

"Man must provide" is kind of an irrelevant issue here. This is an unhealthy relationship. Y'all aren't on the same page, don't have a good foundation of communication, you don't have the same goals or expectations. You have a lot of drama and unhappiness. It's ok to just move on. Find someone who suits you better.

Who provides is up to the people involved in the relationship. What matters the most is that you agree on the setup, not who does what. If you want someone who is an equal partner financially, date people who expect to be equal partners financially.

Anybody sending crying selfies, man or woman, is trying to manipulate your emotions. And that's ick.