If you research public vs private, it's more about the values you instill at home. Assuming the school works for the child (Montessori for example) it's a wash. Interesting note, even in poor school districts kids don't really deviate much until 3rd grade. That's where school actually matters. Source: Freakonomics, book and podcast

Go for the school district. The government ain't coming to help you. If the kids gotta share a room or live in a basement that's a solveable problem. Private school will bleed you.

I'm a "successful male", married with two kids. It's brutal, working a demanding job with a spouse who also has a demanding job. If I were unhappy and got divorced I would be on the hook for 70% of my salary counting alimony and child support. I could make it work, but I could see how the prospect would crush most people.