Ambitious-Cover-1130

Ambitious-Cover-1130 t1_jacaz84 wrote

A few things yes you are/were in love with him.

When there is a big difference in age - people tend to be judgemental. Seems you are involved in a church that inter fears in people lifes.

Discuss this with your parents. As they like him maybe they can ask him if he loved you or not. If he stopped coming because he did not love you - at least he is an honest man. If he loved you - he is not talking his life seriously.

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Ambitious-Cover-1130 t1_j6msnqu wrote

Throwing a box of paper is not comparable to physical manhandling. Stop feeling guilty.

Edit.

You could argue that you started the altercation- still one has to argue that men are not allowed to manhandle women. It is the same reason that a professional boxer will get a very hard sentence if he is a street fight and someone gets hurt. The boxer has an advantage. A grown man has the physical advantage (as you see) towards women.

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Ambitious-Cover-1130 t1_iyf2ru1 wrote

Personally I think he is a lost case.

When you have made your points/ expectations clear and he continues to break them it is time to start preparing to leave.

He is clearly very controlling and in addition sounds like he is gaslighting you as well. His behavior is unacceptable.

If you want, give him a last chance, start searching for a new place to stay - and when he fails - you leave.

That is if you do not leave now - he sounds like a lot of red flags.

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