Update: he punched a hole in the wall when I told him I need progress on donating and selling items, I feel nauseous. He said “you don’t know what kind of day I’ve had” is there a job high stress enough to justify that level of upset…

Yeah that’s fair, I need to be more direct not bother explaining why it needs to be done but just flat out THIS item donate or throw away? He would say keep it and he will find a place for it… like the two bikes, which he now jokingly calls decor.

This reply gave me joy I was so focused on being accommodating! I do agree an ultimatum seems necessary here.