You’re right it is very hurtful .. I might be wrong but I still have a bit of hope, maybe I should try to talk about it again hoping to get a nicer response. I don’t really know if that would work but I hate to give up on people like that

When I told him to set clear boundaries, he said that if he does that it might ruin what they have, and he doesn’t want to lose her, or choose between her and I. And he said that it’s MY problem if I am hurt because of this .. so I don’t really know how to tell him again that their friendship should have limits. Do you think maybe I should initiate this conversation again and how ? Thing is everything else about him is so great.. there’s only this thing that hurts our relationship

I agree … I have tried talking to him about it but I was always accused of being “overreacting” or “controlling”. I really want to try to convince him that he should set clear boundaries with her, but I don’t really know how to