This is excellent advice. (Just read the whole Captain Awkward).

Meanwhile, there is another way of dealing with your mother’s criticisms. Willfully refuse to understand what she is saying. Act like your partner really is the most handsome of the two, and you have no idea what she’s talking about. When she says your partner isn’t as handsome, say they look about the same to you, although your partner is a bit cuter because you always did like a guy with dimples. Squint at a picture of both of them and declare they’re “about the same height, give or take.” If she compliments another guy, just shrug and say, “He looks fine, if that’s what you like.” When she points out how your boyfriend looks different, just say, “Hmmm. Well they both look about the same amount of handsome, but I guess they look a bit different, now that you mention it. My boyfriend has more classic good looks, but the other guy looks perfectly fine too.”

It will drive her nuts.

Awww. He probably really does like going down on you! Does it get his dick hard? If so, that is something you guys are doing together that is really working for both you. He likes it, and you like it. You should expand from that comfort area.

You can try ordering him to do it, or teasing him about it. Put your finger in your wet pussy and make him lick it, and ask him if he likes the taste, and if he does, that he’d better get down there and finish it all up.

OR just make sure you are praising him a lot. Make your enthusiasm clear. He’ll love hearing your moans and gasps. Tell him all the time what a talented pussy licker he is and how hard he makes you come and how you can’t stop thinking about it etc etc etc

Even that is going to open things up for the two of you, and you haven’t even done anything different yet. I think dirty talking about the stuff you already enjoy can help loosen things up. YES it’s fun to be on top and ride; YES it’s fun to give great blow jobs. You will also do those things. But start where you’re comfortable.

I would suggest riding him as the easier thing to do next. I suspect it is a fail-safe thing to do with a man that age. Tell him you want to try being on top but you are feeling anxious so he has to be really patient and encouraging. He’ll want to be ridden so badly that he will be as encouraging as fuck. Lie him down on the bed and climb on top! You don’t have to bob up and down on him—you can also shimmy back and forth. Good luck.

When it comes to touching his dick, do the same thing. Say you want to touch it but you’re really nervous to do it wrong so can he be very encouraging?