Aggravating-Pear9760

Aggravating-Pear9760 t1_iycu6ol wrote

Unfortunately you're thinking was very naive and no wonder this relationship is failing. You married someone you didn't even know (which under some circumstances can work with negotiations and good match making) but this sounds like a marriage of convenience or a rush but not love or even any other stable benefit. There was no foundation. There most likely is absolutely no sexual or romantic attraction here.

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Aggravating-Pear9760 t1_iugmhvc wrote

Not at all. Although maybe he feels that way now considering how it turned out. He was in a place to decide what would be best for him and his child and he decided he was serious enough about you to introduce you but you demanded more and decided the effort he made wasn't good enough for you, so you had a tantrum when you didn't get your way and torpedoed the relationship.

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Aggravating-Pear9760 t1_iuglkj5 wrote

He was making room for you in his life but you demanded more and tried to rush the process. It was only 6 months... Most people don't meet family, the kid or friends in that time but he tried with you. You tanked the relationship and feel like he owes you, he doesn't.

From his perspective you probably shower red flags and proved why bring with you was a bad idea. Relationships especially those with kids involved take time. It's not that he wasn't making you a priority he was sussing out if you were a good fit or not and you weren't.

Either your expectations were unrealistic and selfish or you sabotaged this relationship for some reason.

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