You should share what happened. We could maybe help You.

He’s a lot. Don’t think you’re compatible. He’s controlling , wants to have the last word and everything his way. He’s envious of you. You‘re great dealing with your finances by living with your parents. I think he’ll be happy if you move on on your own and don’t save money. Don’t ever move in with you’ll eventually pay for everything and him always criticize you.

I just wonder what you sees in him.

Yes it seems you feel quite lonely but can’t you make new friends like after the birth of your baby join a support group for mothers if there’s one available where you live.

Having a happy mother is also important for a child. If you’re having a breakdown or are depressed because you don’t have a fulfilled life will this be better than having divorced parents?

I’m afraid there seems no solution for you. Your husband will drop everything for his brother. He is his priority. As for you you can’t depend on him for anything. You better have a support system because if his brother is in crisis you and your children will be second. what also is hard is that nobody wants to change, no therapy anything. They are good in their little world.

Can you live like this?

Does his brother see a doctor,takes meds, see a therapist?

Your husband is so used to be there to help his brother but now that you’re pregnant and later on when/if something happens to you (if sick with young children at home) or his children is very sick he’ll have to make a choice.

He needs therapy to help him with his priorities and also his brother has to find other support beside his brother.