I will also look into the book.

Thank you. The kind words mean more than I thought it would.

Yeah. I was one of those people who was childish and insecure, it was a very instant reaction and I regret it, because the reason why I was mad about her handing it to him in the first place had a perfectly fine explanation I was okay with.

Assuming what she said is true about why she did it and the apologies that followed why is she still playing me? Am I just too blind to see it? She could be genuine and this is just a mistake from her. I know I’m sounding like I’m grasping for straws but the truth is I’m lost here.

I know I can get irrational and messy, im only a person. I still have growing to do, and I shouldn’t have acted prematurely. So some portion of blame is definitely on me. But can I forgive her? Is it a bad idea if I do? Or can only I answer that?

She says I got mad with the way she wanted to handle the situation (I did, I hung up on her when she told me and came back when she told me about how she felt safer this way) and that she only kept him so she could explain the situation when she was ready. She said she lied to protect herself and later acknowledged it was a mistake and that she wants me to be able to trust her. I don’t know what to do.

Update: I confronted her and she doubled down until I gave her evidence, then she said she lied because she didn’t want a “conversation like this”. She said she told him that she had a boyfriend, so at least she wasn’t planning to cheat.

I think that’s the bare truth of it. I understand how important trust is, but when stuff like this happens it goes all out of the window so to speak. I can’t speak on why she’s done that but whatever reason it is isn’t a good one for me

Because he was hitting on her, we’re in a long distance relationship & she has cheated on an ex in the past. Yeah, I am insecure about this, but why lie to me rather than just remove someone?

I never demanded it, she mentioned that she deleted it when I told her I was uncomfortable with it

Same age, race & occupation. Has likes from the restaurant they were at and I asked him for the information above