Huh? I’m not sure why you’re acting like I’m suggesting you be burned at the stake. You shared your opinion publicly, which allows people to reply, contribute, expand on your thoughts, or disagree. They should certainly be respectful, but disagreeing with you isn’t inherently disrespectful.

I’m just pointing out that your proposed solution is not creating an equal division of labor, and is likely to detrimentally impact the relationship. This is relevant since OP seems to be motivated by a desire to keep an even division of labor for the sake of the relationship. If she is managing the mental load, his fiancé will still feel like she’s doing the majority of the work, because she will be.

I think it only works if the blood is fresh

It’s pretty cheap at most stores, and you can even get it at a lot of convenience stores. I know for s fact that places like Rite Aid and Walgreens have it for only a few dollars

Solutions like this one can lead to more frustration and resentment because one party carries the entire mental load. It can also be detrimental to the relationship because it feels… almost parental, living with someone who needs to be reminded to take out the trash and do the dishes and fold their laundry

Have you heard of the mental load?

Honestly this sounds weird but have you considered a couple of things to make the tasks less steps?

Small trash cans with no lids. (Small forces it to be taken out regularly, no lids means fewer steps to the task)

Have a couple of laundry baskets, also no lids. If she knows that she won’t reliably go to the bathroom and put it in that hamper, then have a couple of hampers in the house. She’ll be much more likely to put things in the basket if it’s right there than she would if it was two rooms down.