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-Chris-V- t1_je82fin wrote

I know people love to hate them, but my KitchenAid has served me well, for almost a decade now. BUT I did opt for one of the ones that was marketed as professional grade (who knows) and I expected it would break within it's warranty period so I bought it at Costco to facilitate an easy return.

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-Chris-V- t1_j4obbs9 wrote

Would this still be your dream job after obtaining the degree you're looking for? If so, do the job full time, take classes super part time. Don't screw up the dream job for the sake of the degree that you're pursuing to obtain the dream job.

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-Chris-V- t1_j4mv85f wrote

Man I'm so sorry for your situation. It really really sucks.

Your gf sounds like she is in a state of mental health crisis, and that needs to be addressed. I don't know what can be done to get her help, but she needs it. As a part of her getting help, she will likely interface with a social worker, who will also be able to help resolve things.

It does sound like you're deep in the darkness too.

From the details of your post, I assume that mental healthcare would be hard to get due to lack of resources. If that's incorrect, then by all means, you should seek treatment for yourself too.

Poverty fucking sucks. Feeling like you can't make ends meet when you have the responsibility of a family is absolutely crushing. Have you taken advantage of the community resources that are around? Things like welfare, food stamps, WIC, etc?

It does sound like maybe it would be a good idea for your kids to spend some time with relatives if you have them, while you and your gf regroup. I strongly feel that your gf is not in the frame of mind to care for them on her own.

Having young kids around is fucking hard. Nobody likes to admit it because it gets in the way of all those perfect Facebook posts, but if we're being honest with ourselves, it's very very hard. Raising a young family on a seriously tight budget is enough to drive anyone to the edge.

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-Chris-V- t1_j3tdis4 wrote

For that frequency, I'd probably get one. I use mine less frequently, but I like it a lot. Especially for kneading. The only downside is that it doesn't work well with small volumes.

I do have the pro model, and they are expensive. Maybe a used or refurbished one would do the trick.

We also have a smaller hand mixer we use probably just as often (if I'm being honest).

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-Chris-V- t1_j3qqoe6 wrote

Do we expect the lifespan of Chinese iron to be less than American iron?

Maybe youcanbiyitforlife can also lean more towards stuf that's more affordable. Just because a $600 blanket is available to be purchased doesn't mean that I can buy it.

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-Chris-V- t1_j2eyb4u wrote

Man, I've read a lot of bad things on here but you may have won.

Your wife must feel so humiliated. Her friend must feel so icky.

Alcohol is no excuse.

The thing you did was in inside you and alcohol let it out. I kinda refuse to accept the excuse of wanting to comfort the friend.

My suspicion is that you're freaked out about the commitment of getting married and have a tendency to self sabotage.

I don't think abstaining from drinking is going to be enough to save this level of screw up. Curious to see what people think could help.

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-Chris-V- t1_j23p30a wrote

No, but people who are dating and suffer extreme mental illness are often not emotionally or mentally available to be in a relationship. And we're not talking about garden variety depression, we're talking about a suicide attempt. It's not fair to expect the S/O in a situation like this to stick around walking on egg shells, unable to speak up or disagree for fear their partner might try again.

If these people do not have long term obligations to each other, they have no long term obligation to each other.

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-Chris-V- t1_j21ch4c wrote

Dedicated cat lover here. I've gone to some pretty extreme (and costly) measures to bring my cat back to better health...but in this case, with a 17 year old cat who is clearly suffering and clearly near her end, it would be a kindness to help her pass with whatever dignity she has left. Without your help she may last a day, a month, or even a year, but eventually she will pass-- and her life will only get more agonizing.

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-Chris-V- t1_j1up6kf wrote

Also, buy everything you can from Costco They will actually honor the manufacturer warranty, even when the manufacturer tries to snake their way out of replacing your item.

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